My uncle Si passed away this week after a long bout of dementia, so while I am sad to say goodbye, I am grateful that he is not suffering. Being officially uncle-less, brings up feelings of the temporal reality we are engaging in. We are all going along as we can and even though we may not see our family or the friends that we have adopted as family along the way, we are still connected to each other. We do develop the means to carry on in various ways and some moments crop up to remind us that we aren’t alone in this spiral race within the labyrinth.
I remember my uncle Si, pulling me aside when I had moved to Boulder on my way to LA to become an actor. He gave me a hundred dollars and told me to take a day off and go sit by myself and ask myself what would make me the most happy and fulfilled. He encouraged me to pursue my dreams in a way that would be profitable and sustaining. We don’t have to reach out to one another and although it may have been awkward for him, he cared enough about me to do that.
There is a certain aspect of relationships that allow us to take the long-view with those we love. We may get into it, we may wince when they react or act in certain ways, we may get tired and not want to be bothered, but beyond our survival mode and cynical crust, we can see one another in our heart’s eye and find a way to continue to connect. We can look along the line of moments we have gathered together and find the sweet ones. We can be present to their entirety, even if they are no longer here and know that whatever short comings they have, there is more to them then we will ever know.
I may be uncle-less but I am still an uncle to my niece and nephew and to lots of kids who know me as their Uncle Eye! So here’s to being caught in the Web of Life with you!
Web of Life
Help me I’m caught in this web of life, run to the kitchen
and get me a knife, cut right there… ok I’m free…
wait, now you’re unraveling me!
We’re all connected, we’re all connected!
Every single thing you see, shares the same source of energy!
Web of life. *
Without the plants we could not breathe,
without them we would have to leave.
With all that we claim to achieve, next to plants we are naïve.
Every rock has a secret, every blade of grass sings…
There is a purpose for every living thing…
– Uncle Eye
Here’s to connecting!