On our travels this weekend, instead of listening to Agatha Christie’s Poirot stories or NPR in the car, we read aloud from a new book we downloaded for $3.99 by David R. Hawkings called Letting Go: The Pathway to Surrender. Mr. Hawkings, who wrote Power Vs. Force, spends the first two pages talking about all the methods you may have tried to relieve your stress and anxiety. His method is not something new and it isn’t associated with any religious or philosophical belief, so it can be used by anyone.
He suggests that a single emotion can spur millions of thoughts and while we are not ultimately our emotions, they are often the underlying key to our thoughts and actions. He says mostly what we do with our emotions are:
Repress or Surpress them. This leads to disease, fatigue, the old blame/shame projection game and the like.
Expressing them. Contrary to popular belief, expressing and giving vent to our negative emotions does not disperse them but actually strengthens them and gives them weight. (So while kvetching feels like you have scratched an itch, it makes you want to scratch more.)
Escape from them. The entertainment, liquor and drug industries depend on this one. This one maybe the most fun but often creates alcoholics, workaholics, addicts, bingers , and short- changes our pure celebratory enjoyment of life.
Since ‘like attracts like’, when we have negative emotions stored up, our mind will create situations to line up with those emotions. So, if we have inner anger, we will create frustrating situations to be angry with. If we are afraid, then the mind will attract fearful scenarios etc.
The letting go process, as we have gleaned so far, involves giving yourself permission to identify the feeling behind your thoughts and allow yourself to feel that feeling without resisting it, judging it, or getting sucked back into assigning thoughts to blame or define why that emotion is happening. Don’t pay attention to the thoughts, just sit with the emotion and let it run its course, “without wanting to make it different or do anything about it.” If we are present with it, we will notice a lightness around it, especially if we “surrender all efforts to modify it in any way.” Removing the resistance to the emotion allows for the energy behind it to dissipate.
Of course since we have been stuffing our emotions for most of our lives, it will be a process to deplete our store of negative emotions.
We put it into practice today and by Jove, it worked! We are looking forward to reading more of the book and utilizing this process further. As Mr. Hawkings points out: “The person who has let go of a lot of inner negativity is surrounded by loving thoughts, loving events, loving people , and loving pets.”
May your dwellings be free from ants and your storehouses hold only an abundance of what brings you peace and joy.