Throughout my life, I have been one to celebrate and go wild in appropriate and inappropriate moments. Sometimes, despite everything going on around me, I am barely contained with an unreasonable joy.
There are other times when I have bullied myself into misery because I feel that my short comings, or lack of accomplishment on a social scale doesn’t measure up or that various aspects of my personality are, “Just not right”.
I have beaten myself up saying, “With all that you have read and for as long as you have practiced, you should know better, you should be better.”
I once heard something that explained the difference between should and could. Should is shaming, could opens the door to possibility.
Matt Khan has a long talk on celebration and listening to it opened a door for me this week. He said that we usually wait to celebrate until we have accomplished something, or until things look different.
He suggested that by celebrating every aspect of ourselves, especially the parts we detest in our behavior, as a part of something divine, we can accept who we are on a deeper level with humor and lighten up.
What usually happens as I know so well is that we beat ourselves up for not being this or that and then we take a break to console ourselves by eating a carton of ice-cream, or drinking a bottle, or something equivalent and then feel shame and go back to the beatings (until morale improves ; )
Matt said that when you are eating the ice-cream, drinking, smoking, whatever it is, consciously celebrate it, enjoy the crap out of it because that pulls the plug on the shame which loves to point out that this makes us less than divine because we are indulging ourselves.
He suggested you sing out all of your bad thoughts and behaviors, “Here I am being passive aggressive!” or “The person in front of me in line is wearing perfume…when will they die?”
Matt: “Celebrate with embellished honesty. Admit what is totally true about your worst qualities and crank up the enthusiasm until you laugh.”
Even doing simple things throughout the day, like opening the refrigerator door you can, “Anchor gratitude to increase your self-worth to bring forth higher energy for all.”
I know I am leaning heavily on this one video talk today but it really addresses something I have been struggling with for a long time. I compartmentalize myself. I recognize where my inconsistencies are and disqualify myself from allowing this moment to be triumphant.
Matt: “Arrogance is thinking you are better than other people, confidence is celebrating the uniqueness of yourself. Arrogance is a comparison. The one thing we are looking for is confidence.
Confidence to accept everything as divinity whether you understand it or not and to celebrate yourself in all your imperfect perfection.
When you celebrate, life stops devastating you.
If you take the time to celebrate what you have a problem with, you will change the energy.
We are not denying people’s pain, we are certainly not laughing at people’s pain, we are liberating them from pain by cranking up the celebration in our own lives so that something different can arise within them.”
So my friends, let’s rock! Let the wildly honest rumpus begin!
Our knowledge and wisdom is never a possession as much as a circuit completed. Where we know how act on impulse and allow sweetness through to increase awareness, we all bask in that warmth.
Julia and I are in Iowa this week. We got to stay with our friend Amy. Julia and Amy went to college together and we have all remained close. After being in the car for nine hours, Julia got out and hugged Amy. Standing there watching them, I was struck by how powerful the love of friendship is. It was as if whatever internal grime each had stored up was released as they stood there crying.
Amy has a very successful photography business, (Amyrose Photography) and not only works with weddings, high school seniors and children but she has started taking portraits of women over fifty. Some women come to her saying they haven’t been photographed for over thirty years. We were treated to a photo session ourselves and Amy not only puts you at your ease but gives you tips on how to position yourself to maximize your beauty. She has a fun wardrobe and knows how to apply makeup to your best advantage. Certainly she makes a good living but the service she provides is invaluable. I became aware of how it felt to have someone pulling for you, earnestly working for your benefit. To be seen by someone who cares is a moment that cuts through so many moments when you have been beaten down. To then have a record of that good feeling, so that not only do you see yourself as you can be but to have those in your life be able to see as well, opens a door that promotes change. Amy said many of the women start taking care of themselves, where by their own admission they had stopped trying.
“Art is not what you see, but what you make others see.” – Edgar Degas
“The common eye sees only the outside of things, and judges by that, but the seeing eye pierces through and reads the heart and the soul, finding there capacities which the outside didn’t indicate or promise, and which the other kind couldn’t detect.” – Mark Twain
“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye.” – Antoine de Saint Exupery
…And as if she was a beloved reoccurring guest, like Paula Poundstone on NPR’s Wait, Wait, Don’t Tell Me, here is Pema Chodron:
“… the challenge is how to develop compassion right along with clear seeing, how to train in lightening up and cheering up rather than becoming more guilt-ridden and miserable. … From the very beginning to the very end, pointing to our own hearts to discover what is true isn’t just a matter of honesty but also of compassion and respect for what we see.”
May we all be seen and see one another with a clear heart.
“One act of kindness can overcome fate.” – Hafiz/ Ladinsky
Columbus Day Is Now Indigenous People’s Day in Seattle A…
Some cities seek to change the second Monday in October to a more politically correct, inclusive holiday
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“I salute the light within your eyes where the whole Universe dwells. For when you are at that center within you and I am that place within me, we shall be one.”
-Crazy Horse, Oglala Lakota Sioux (circa 1840-1877)
“In our every deliberation, we must consider the impact of our decisions on the next seven generations.”
– Iroquois Maxim (circa 1700-1800)
“Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect.”
– Chief Seattle, Duwamish (1780-1866)
“Being Indian is an attitude, a state of mind, a way of being in harmony with all things and all beings. It is allowing the heart to be the distributor of energy on this planet; to allow feelings and sensitivities to determine where energy goes; bringing aliveness up from the Earth and from the Sky, putting it in and giving it out from the heart.”
– Brooke Medicine Eagle
“We, the great mass of the people think only of the love we have for our land, we do love the land where we were brought up. We will never let our hold to this land go, to let it go it will be like throwing away (our) mother that gave (us) birth.”. – Letter from Aitooweyah to John Ross, Principal Chief of the Cherokee.
When you know who you are; when your mission is clear and you burn with the inner fire of unbreakable will; no cold can touch your heart; no deluge can dampen your purpose. You know that you are alive.
– Chief Seattle, Duwamish (1780-1866)
The Levins take their IndieGoGo campaign to Iowa!
New Video preview clip of Dream Unspoken from the Upcoming CD: Trust.
Dream Unspoken © 2014 – The Levins
Driving in my car today, I’m trying to find some color in a world gone gray.
Heard an old song, made me leap inside, I thought of you and I laughed, and then I cried.
I remember, I remember, the twinkle in your eye… the fire in my heart.
A bond of under-standing that can’t be torn a-part.
Remember a time when your lungs filled with song,
it was a new sensation- you knew that you be-longed!
Chorus: I remember, I remember, a dream unspoken by us all, a love that broke down
every wall, and I remember… I remember it all.
Seems it’s so easy to forget, the splendor of a single sunset,
the im-portance and the beauty of friendship,
it keeps us alive, we can never let it slip.
I remember, I remember, photographs and phone calls,
visits and the letters, help repaint the picture which over time has weathered.
I sing to you know of who we were then, all that we are and what we’ll be when we meet again.
I remember, I remember, a dream unspoken by us all, a love that broke down
every wall, and I remember… I remember it all.