Category Archives: Patience

A Creative Reframing of Stress and Superpowers

Overcoming your fear of utilizing your creativity.

Frame: noun  – “a ridged structure that surrounds or encloses something.”

“Reframing…Your frame is the house you live in.  That which you tell yourself on a regular basis.

What you talk about, you make real. Words are magical incantations.

Create a home that works for you, that brings you peace, that makes you calm.

Frame something that makes you feel good, makes you more patient, more kind.

It’s not a destination, it’s a way of living.”- Drake Powe

One of the advantages of being a travelling musician is getting to listen to audio books and podcasts on the way to various gigs.  Two recent highlights have been Elizabeth Gilbert’s wonderful resource book about creativity called Big Magic and her follow-up podcast Magic Lessons.

In episode 12 of her podcast, she has a dialogue with author Brene Brown. During that discussion, Brene noted:

“Without (creativity) I am not OK and without having access to everyone else’s, we are not OK.

I absolutely understand, personally and professionally from the data, there are no such thing as non-creative people. There are just people who use their creativity and those that don’t, and unused creativity is not benign.”

Brene Brown

My friend Drake Powe is someone I think of whose living presence is an expression of creativity. Drake was the best man at my wedding. Each interaction I have with him, brings me fully into the present and shifts me back to what is vital in this moment.

Even before he had an outlet for his creativity, Drake’s canvas was interaction.

Drake is a big persona. He is not only larger than life in personality but also in stature.  You might be surprised that despite being over six feet tall with a barrel chest that houses his immense heart,  Drake has wrestled with a fear of being attacked. This might stem from growing up in a rough neighborhood, however, fear of being vulnerable extends to being criticized as well.  Anyone with a presence on line, risks being attacked by mean spirited individuals with a lot of time on their hands.  Both Elizabeth Gilbert and Brene Brown talk of having to deal with trolls who antagonize them for being powerful women who choose to demonstrate their creativity in an empowering way.  Drake has pushed past his fears and the stress of being an empowering black man in his community. As a yoga instructor, he has felt comfortable dealing with individuals and small groups but recently he has challenged himself to begin speaking in public.

In one of these presentations, he talks of accessing his inner superhero whose power is being calm and optimistic in stressful situations. He has managed to reframe his story, (fears of attack) by applying this superpower. He has recognized that very thing that stresses him out, simultaneously has the power of fueling his gift.

“Conflict is our opportunity when we realize how powerful we are… We are stressed because we feel vulnerable…You are not what you are stressed about…our true state is calm and loving…

Change the size of your framing, make yourself big, make yourself magnificent, because that’s who you are.”- Drake Powe

When I think of what super power I want to have, it is the ability to step outside of time, to be able to experience and bestow a state of timelessness. What pushes my buttons and causes me stress are, most often, fear based time-related issues, such as deadlines and ‘to do’ lists, even if they are self-imposed. When I react from a time-stressed center, my frame becomes small and, as my wife would say, “I am not my best self.” I have experienced that my creativity is heightened when I activate my superpower. Timelessness brings me back to benevolence. Benevolence extends the frame of my being beyond space. The music that flows from that, reduces stress and dances without constraint.

I wonder if each of us has a superpower that is restrained by stress, fear, or not fully utilizing our creativity.

Just for this moment, allow yourself to step out of time, reframe. Go beyond the self you know.

There really is no frame to what we actually are.  Being able to sit within our natural state of being gives us access to our creativity, our ability to be Faster than a speeding negative thought- More powerful than criticism -Able to leap stress at a single bound!


Simplicity, patience and compassion

We are constantly seeking an identity in all that we do, so knowing  that we are love incarnate,  we can relax our effort towards self aggrandizement and silently bestow what we are to everyone and each task that we undertake.  Bringing the light hearted into what would be considered hardship or a serious endeavor allows us all to take sneak peeks behind the veil.


My sister, Dr. aimee, is an incredible human being, a powerhouse of energy, creativity and concern.  She is an amazing audiologist and has her practice at a holistic, therapeutic, pediatric collective called Therapeeds*, which provides positive results without zombifiying their patients with medications.

One day aimee was reading a Roald Dahl book with a boy who was autistic.  They were discussing the book and witches and the boy looked at aimee and said, “You look like a witch.”  Aimee asked him why he thought she looked like a witch.  “Because you have a nose like a witch.”

Now, not only is aimee beautiful and much more like Mary Poppins on the magic side of the spectrum than a witch in one of Mr. Dahl’s books but she is also patient.  The next day they were reading the Ugly Duckling and discussed the brother and sister ducks teasing the young swan in their midst.  The boy said it was mean the way they were talking to the swan. “Like telling someone they looked like a witch?” my sister asked him, not unkindly.  His eyes grew wide, “Oh, that was mean of me to say that to you,” he said.  She told him he could think whatever he liked, his thoughts were his own but that he didn’t always have to share if it might hurt someone’s feelings.  He got it without shame.

Rabbi Hillel was once rudely asked by a man if he could teach the whole of the Torah while standing on one foot and he replied, ” “What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow: this is the whole Torah; the rest is the explanation; go and learn.”

There were also two men who had a bet that they could make Hillel angry.  They insulted his Babylonian origin, but they both lost the bet. Hillel had simplicity, patience and compassion.

“Simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures. Simple in actions and thoughts, you return to the source of being. Patient with both friends and enemies, you accord with the way things are. Compassionate toward yourself, you reconcile all beings in the world.” ― Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

May the victory of simplicity, patience and compassion be ours, even periodically through the week.