“Until we learn to love ourselves, we create space in our lives to manifest all these things to justify why we have no time to love ourselves. “ – Matt Khan
Last week Julia and I went to see Sharon Salzberg, who talked about the power of meditation. She said the key was “give yourself the compassion to start over a thousand times in one sitting when your mind wanders, to lovingly bring it back.” She talked about focusing on your breath while directing loving-kindness towards yourself. In her book Real Happiness, she uses Linda Stone’s term “Continuous Partial Attention”. This refers to our not wanting to miss out on anything…so we are on our phones, texting, checking Facebook, remaining busy which creates an “artificial sense of constant crisis, of living in a 24/7, always-on world.”
Taking time to check in and be with ourselves beyond the list of things that must be done allows for the inner space to merge with our external reality.
Julia and I were playing at the NY Center for Spiritual Living this weekend and the talk focused on “deciding to be grateful on the days we really don’t want to be.” The prompt was to write down what is making us unwilling to be grateful, allowing it to be there and still finding things to be grateful for.
At the end of the service, a young woman, who was smiling and beaming at us while we sang, stood up with something to share. Months ago, she said she had purchased three of our CDs because she was pregnant and wanted to play something beautiful for her baby to hear. Sadly, months into her pregnancy she had a miscarriage. The music she initially bought for positive reinforcement suddenly became music that she turned to for healing. The song she especially bonded with was a song from our Hafiz album, “The Sun Never Says” (The sun never says to the earth: “You owe me.” Look what you can do with a love like that. It lights up the whole sky.”) She said that when she miscarried, she continued to play the song to nurture and remain connected to her child and to the beauty that surrounds her.
This woman was radiant in her gratitude as she stood in front of everyone and shared this …and it broke us open. I thought that it was certainly Hafiz that had reached and sustained her but how many signs do we need on a daily basis to remind us to be grateful and loving?
My friend Angie turned me onto Matt Khan, who is the Jack Black of enlightenment. Matt has a video called Love Revolution and he says:
“You are the one who can rewrite your brain chemistry and all you have to do is love your heart on a regular basis. Relentlessly. When you love your own heart, you are loving all hearts simultaneously. Transform reality inside out.
We want heaven on earth we sit around waiting for, “Ok who’s going to do it? There’s billions of people on the planet, anyone want a crack at it? I’ll cheer you on.” No, we’re going to build this thing together. Together but individually.
…Creating new patterns in your subconscious mind by making “I love you” the most popular thing you say to yourself. And you become the safest person for you to be around. Because the magic is when you become the safest person for you to be around you will never feel unsafe around another person because you will always be there with you.”
Matt Khan- Love Revolution:
Julia noted that the Love Revolution reminds us like Sharon Salzberg, that it comes round again and again so we can give ourselves the compassionate permission to start a thousand times in one sitting; to love ourselves again and again when we get drawn into “Continuous Partial Attention”.
Let me say sincerely that I am so grateful for you. As hard as it is to bring back our attention to loving ourselves, may we all succeed and radiate our beauty fully.