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Bringing our Love-Fear Paradigm to the Table

A Thanksgiving Opportunity

My wife Julia and I were recently driving in Manhattan. While in gridlock traffic, we looked left and noticed a glowing electric sign that was hanging in a window that read, “Right NOW is all there is.” We slowly moved along and a block later, across the street, a painted window read, “Love what you do.”  As we inched forward, we started laughing as we finally noticed the truck in front of us had an insignia, “Trust”, painted on the back.  It was a beautiful synchronous moment, where we realized that our environment was reaching out to us.

We have driven on this street, several times but never saw the signs on either side because we are usually racing to get somewhere. Traffic in SOHO is never predictable and we are often generally concerned about running behind. Yet, the difference this time was, as we drove, we were listening to a book that was aligning us with love and engaging us to be more present.

Fear and love, being the two motivating forces at play in this reality, create a co-existing paradigm, similar to the particle-wave principle of light. Light is both a particle and a wave, depending on how we observe it. Similarly, being in a state of fear or love, shifts our focus and changes our environment.


In the midst of chaos, we have access to a pervasive calm.  What streams through us, moment to moment, is a love that offers us insights. Love can transcend the fear-based projections which motivate violence and suffering tending to dominate the world.

Both fear and love support us completely. If we are fearful, then the universe provides us with endless reasons to maintain our apprehension. If we are grounded in love, then we are able to recognize or find strength and inspiration, even in the midst of gridlock traffic.

The custom of gathering together for Thanksgiving is an opportunity to demonstrate this Love-Fear paradigm. It is all too familiar to allow dread of awkward interactions to pave the way for passive aggression, political declarations, outbursts of judgement followed by toxic silences.  With a determined intention, we can also decide to be present and align ourselves with love and gratitude. Despite all of our fearful quirks, the love we embody is worth bringing to the table. With that love, we can look past one another’s faults, and the factions we find ourselves in, to strengthen our bonds. It will also help with our digestion.

Whether you are gathered around with family or friends, or find yourself in solitude this week, may love be present. Happy Thanksgiving and a love-filled feast!

Let’s Be Big!

Smile into this next choice.  We are confronted by an endless series of choices and this one is the most vital. Relativity transfers the universe into the seemingly insignificant.  Ponder how much goes by without our noticing.  We feel incrementally what importance we can place on our own self-worth and subsequently that transfers to those around us.  The dream we hold in our heart is guarded by fear of survival and being drawn into degradation.  Empowering the purity of our deepest connection with this life, we become bold and can make the right choices; that not only safeguards us but encourages those around us. 


Change has come and complacency will not serve us. We may be afraid to see what will happen next but having courage in the face of fear will see us through.  Tony Robbins says we must divorce ourselves from the story that debilitates us. Mooji says we are not our wounded limited egos but limitless awareness. Each of us had leadership quality. While none of us may fully ready, now is the time for us to begin, as Brene Brown would say, Rising Strong. Playing it small, small minded, petty with blame-throwers in our hands will serve no one.  Embrace that which is endless in yourself and let us keep our hearts on the greater turning of humanity towards true liberty, equality and freedom. 

Let’s reach out to one another and start talking about manifesting our dreams in a way that will not only benefit ourselves but bolster those around us.

Albert Einstein peace quote

Let’s Be Big

“If Al were here, I’m sure he would agree, if you want to move around at light’s velocity 

You’ve got to be big, as infinity. 

So take the afternoon and come along with me. 


Hey! Let’s be big today. We’ll travel all around chasing troubles away. They’ll never see us coming. They’ll wonder why they’re humming. Come on, what ya say?  Let’s be big today.

Sitting on a moving mountain of gold.  Riding out past everything that I’ve been told.

Internal navigation, blindsided by degrees.  The fear of not succeeding was defining me.

I’d rather think big. So I’m getting out of my way. Out into the open where it’s not so gray. 


Bigger than heart-ache, bigger than strife. Taking the cake, we’re larger than life.

When I am in tatters and about to cave, in elementary matters, 

be the particle and the wave.

When you’re scared and loose your way- be the particle and the wave.

Stand and be brave- be the particle and the wave.


Bigger than heart-ache, bigger than strife. Taking the cake, we’re larger than life.

Hey Let’s be big today. We’ll travel all around chasing troubles away.

Bigger than heart-ache, bigger than strife. Taking the cake, we’re larger than life.

They’ll never see us coming. They’ll wonder why they’re humming.

Come on, what ya say?  Let’s be big today.”                  – The Levins

Particle and wave

Rock the paradox, you are essential!

A different 1% – Expanding our perspective

Here is a talk worth viewing:
Best Explanation Ever! To A Fascinatingly Disturbing Thought! Dr. Neil DeGrasse Tyson  
Dr. Neil breaks down the thought that we are composed of the same elements as we see in the night sky, that we are not separate from what we see all around us.  He makes the point that we share 99% of the same DNA  as a chimpanzee.  The one percent difference is what allows us to compose symphonies and launch the Hubble Telescope into space. Talk about the 1%!  What if we were to meet beings who had one percent higher than us?  Their children would have an explanation of the string theory magnetized on their refrigerators.  We think we are so special but it is all relative.
“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”-  Albert Einstein

Child in Space
We are all part of – a child in space.
One body, one mind, one race.
We are all atoms dancing  face to face
and the bond that we can’t see between us-
keeps us in this place.
While the left hand wrestles with the right,
belly goes hungry, eyes shut tight.
If i could reach accross the great divide,
our tears would become nurishment to heal us from inside.
And the darkness would fade.  If I could hasten the day.
We are all part of – a child in space.
One body, one mind, one race.
We are all atoms dancing  face to face
and the bond that we can’t see between us-
keeps us in this place.
One body, one mind, one race. 
– The Levins

We may overcome our need to strive to be part of the socio-economic one percent and collectively reach out to touch the next percent in our understanding.


The Binary Code of Belief

Tremendous advancements occur within the space of a thought when we are able to shift our conception of what we believe.  Difference of opinion may infuriate us but it is only because we have forgotten how to occupy more than one space at a time.  Stationary conviction denies the expansion of the dance.
I have been having a wonderful conversation with my friend Angie Moates about being able to explore the paradox beliefs of theism and nontheism.
Pema Chodron in her book,  When Things Fall Apart says:
“The difference between theism and nontheism is not whether one does or does not believe in God.   It is an issue that applies to everyone, including both Buddhists and non-Buddhists.  Theism is a deep-seated conviction that there’s someone’s hand to hold: if we just do the right things,… someone will take care of us.  It means there’s always a babysitter available when we need one.  We all are inclined to abdicate our responsibilities and delegate our authority to something outside ourselves.  Nontheism is relaxing with the ambiguity and uncertainty of the present moment without reaching for anything to protect ourselves… It is total appreciation of impermanence and change.
In speaking about theism the poet and philosopher Shankara in his book Crest-Jewel of Discrimination, based on the Vedas says: “Brahman- the absolute existence, knowledge and bliss- is real.  The universe is not real.  Brahman and Atman ((hu-)man’s inner Self) are one.”
The central Jewish prayer, the Sh’ma also says that God is one.
One view suggests there is nothing real inside or out (so why get hung up? : ) , another view suggests there is only one real thing inside and out. (so why get hung up? ; ) The first can be represented by a zero (no-thing) (0) and the other by a one (1).  This makes me think of binary code in which programmers use combinations of zero and one to make up a computer ‘reality’.  What if our projected reality, Maya, or the illusion of reality as we know it is a form of this binary code?
In quantum physics, when you break down elementary matter it can be seen as a particle or a wave. Both the particle and the wave represent the same thing. This further represents the paradox of the zero and the one or as Einstein wrote:
It seems as though we must use sometimes the one theory and sometimes the other, while at times we may use either. We are faced with a new kind of difficulty. We have two contradictory pictures of reality; separately neither of them fully explains the phenomena of light, but together they do“- Albert Einstein
Here is what my friend Angie had to say:
“The Buddhist psychology, including the practice of meditation, helped me to reduce my dependence on my spiritual ego. For me, (the spiritual ego) this is the part of me that is always seeking, never finally settled with what is, and full of beliefs and truths that only keep me separated. I realized at one point that this was my addiction. For several years now, I haven’t been comfortable in any church setting.
I still believe in God, but prefer to feel God through nature, music, conversation, animals, etc. Mostly, I have a very personal practice that’s difficult to put into words. Pema taught me not to fear the pain, (our negativity) that comes up but to allow it and accept it. Last year at this time I had a hard time doing that! But I’ve learned that my spiritual ego was keeping me from going deeper with growth. Now, I finally understand what it means to truly love myself at the core. Whatever comes up, I do my best to be kind to myself in all ways, especially thoughts. This became more of a permanent state for me during meditation when I had a vision of myself as a mother, then a father, then finally a small child. It was like all parts of myself came together in a bond. It was pure goodness. And it’s all good, whatever comes up.” – Angie Moates
So here’s to “Loving ourselves at the core”, relieving neurosis so we can direct our hearts towards healing.

Getting along, along the Loxahatchee river

I hope your Thanksgiving weekend was wonderful and that you can breathe around the middle.
My family was invited up to Jupiter, Florida where a friend of my dad’s had purchased four houses along the Loxahatchee river and connected them via a boardwalk into a compound.  His friend passed away this year and his widow invited us up for Thanksgiving.  My folks extended her generosity and invited the extended family until there were 21 of us enjoying the hospitality and the incredible views off the docks.

A few of us, who are known for being a bit whoo whoo, sent up a treatment for a magical week with no drama.
I am happy to say it worked.  Sending up an intention is no guarantee, but it does help and increases our chances for success.
The hardest thing is to remember to see the people who have a history of not being our favorite differently.
My mom told us a story of another family reunion in which, among the guest list, there were these two cousins. Mostly everyone loved the one cousin and thought the other cousin was mean and bit crabby. As the ‘mean and crabby’ cousin was coming down the steps to the party, my mom’s sister waved at her thinking she was the cousin everyone loved.  Well, this “mean and crabby” cousin, seeing this mistaken reaction to her arrival, lit up and was absolutely delightful and lovely all weekend.
“The most important decision we ever make is whether we believe we live in a friendly universe or a hostile universe.”
-Albert Einstein
Our host for the week was an amazing woman who, once a month uses the houses to host wounded warriors and their families.  They get to fish and swim, are taken out on a boat, one night her and her team watch the kids so the Vet and his or her spouse can go out for a fancy meal alone.  Our host said their gratitude and appreciation makes the work worthwhile.  Yet she confessed to me that after a few days, even in this beautiful heavenly spot, this one is fighting with that one… “To see a family that seems to really like each other like yours,” she said, “is very refreshing.”

I give the credit to my folks who are so giving with such a generous spirit and amazing sense of humor that accepts you where you are while cheerleading your stronger self, most of my friends have asked if they can adopt themselves into the family.
May you be adopted into an open-armed existence that values you for what you are and nourishes what you have to give!

Juggling The Matzo Ball Soup Theory

My friend Aldene Burton had what he called the Matzo ball Soup theory, which was if you are traveling along and desire matzo ball soup then you will start to see deli’s that you may have passed a thousand times before without noticing.  Albert Einstein said that “mass and energy are both but different manifestations of the same thing,” and Marianne Willamson said, “You can live your life out of a circumstance or your life out of a vision.”
Now juggling these three concepts it occurs to me that we can begin to trust the process of focusing on what we only hope to see in our day to day reality without having to give in to the ItWillNeverWork! doubts and old tapes that vy for our attention.  Awakening to a desire for peace or a success that includes bringing happiness to others, for example,  will open our eyes to ways to succeed despite any roadblocks we have previously and routinely put in our way such as age, time restrictions, insecurity, painful history, and the thousand excuses that keep us mired in the laundry reality.  In our society, there is a strong undertow that suggests we are not enough, that we need to be constantly knocking on other people’s doors in the hopes that they will open up and recognize our worth. Even when this happens, it doesn’t mean that we will acknowledge it ourselves.
Walt Whitman in his Leaves of Grass, reminds us of what we are inherent to and what  grandeur we embody:
“Any man or woman shall stand cool and supercilious before a million universes…
I hear and behold God in every object, yet I understand God not in the least, Nor do I understand who there can be more wonderful than myself.  Why should I wish to see God better than this day? I see something of God each hour of the twenty-four, and each moment then, In the faces of men and women I see God, and in my own face in the glass;  I find letters from God dropped in the street, and every one is signed by God’s name, And I leave them where they are, for I know that others will punctually come forever and ever.”
-Walt Whitman
Old Walt, singing the body electric, increased his desire to see God’s letters and finds them in the street, he sees the matzo ball soup within himself and knows that he is the hub of the wheeled universe!  or as my good friend Marc Rosenberg once said:
“I am the pizza I ordered!”